Polyamory is a term used to describe a lifestyle where someone maintains multiple sexual and/or romantic relationships simultaneously with full knowledge and consent of the people involved. Within this dynamic, there is another term often used and that is “unicorn.”
A unicorn is used to describe a bisexual person, typically a female, who is willing to join the couple (usually hetero) and have a relationship with both people. So in this case the unicorn is the third wheel, and happily so! What is important to remember is that these relationships are 100% consensual, fun and comfortable.
Sometimes the unicorn is strictly there for a sexual relationship with both partners, and there is an understanding that she will not develop any emotional attachments. But other times the group is allowed to go with the flow to see what dynamics might form naturally.
If you think you’ve got the mind, body and heart to live life as this mythical creature, or if you’re a couple looking to find your very own unicorn to play with, then keep reading to learn some of the golden rules of these polyamorous relationships.
Set Your Boundaries
If you are a couple in search of a unicorn, you’ll definitely need to set some rules before you go hunting. What are your desires and what are your lines/boundaries? Best to know this going in.
Honesty is Key
It’s hard enough for two people to communicate clearly, bring a third person into the mix and see how difficult it can be! No one is a mind reader. For everyone to have a good, safe and healthy time, clear and honest communication is necessary. Some couples are only looking for a fun, sexual relationship, while others are looking for something deeper. Similarly, some unicorns are only interested in causal sex, while others are hoping to find that polyamorous relationship that fits like a glove.
Know Where to Look
The days of couples getting dolled up and hitting the bar in hopes of scoring are long gone (thank God!). That was always a bit of a crapshoot. Today, there are many dating websites that cater to this particular lifestyle, so sign up, create your profile, and live out your fantasy!
Polyamorous relationships can be incredibly fun and rewarding as long as everyone is open and honest. If you follow these guidelines, you’ll have a relationship that’s the stuff myths are made of!
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