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May 26, 2025 by Alan Zupka

Rumination: What It Is & How to Stop Doing It

Understanding and Transforming Rumination: A Therapeutic Perspective

Rumination is the repetitive and often involuntary focus on distressing thoughts, emotions, or experiences. Some individuals may find themselves replaying events from the past, while others become preoccupied with future uncertainties. Regardless of the direction, rumination can take hold of a person’s internal narrative, leading to cycles of worry, regret, and self-doubt.

From the standpoint of Narrative Therapy, rumination represents a dominant problem-saturated story—one where thoughts become stuck in a loop that reinforces helplessness or shame. Individuals may feel as though they are at the mercy of their thoughts, rather than the authors of their own lives.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) identifies rumination as a cognitive distortion, where thought patterns become automatic and unchallenged. These patterns tend to amplify anxiety, depression, and stress while diminishing one’s ability to regulate emotions, think clearly, or rest. Similarly, mindfulness approaches note that rumination can remove a person from the present moment, keeping them entangled in the past or future while neglecting the grounding power of the here and now.

Over time, rumination may intensify and contribute to mental health conditions such as Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Major Depressive Disorder, or Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder. In many cases, it can also worsen pre-existing symptoms and interfere with daily functioning.

Reclaiming Control: Practical Strategies to Interrupt Rumination

When rumination begins to take root, early intervention is essential. Each moment of awareness creates an opportunity to shift one’s focus and challenge the narrative that feeds the cycle. The following strategies reflect evidence-based interventions drawn from CBT, mindfulness, and positive psychology:

  • Engage in meaningful distraction: Redirect energy by engaging in physical movement, household tasks, or contacting a trusted friend. These actions can interrupt the thought loop and provide a sense of agency.

  • Change your environment: A change in scenery, such as taking a walk or spending time in a new setting, can stimulate mental flexibility and offer a fresh perspective.

  • Practice mindful breathing and meditation: Ground yourself in the present through breath awareness. These techniques help anchor attention and reduce mental overactivity.

  • Challenge unhelpful thoughts: Ask yourself whether the thought is factual, helpful, or distorted. Examine the evidence and consider more balanced, compassionate alternatives.

  • Take intentional steps toward resolution: Identify if there is a problem within your control that can be addressed. Break it into manageable actions, such as creating a shared household to-do list to manage domestic stress.

  • Identify and respond to triggers: Observe patterns in your rumination. If it tends to arise at night, consider introducing a soothing evening routine that supports healthy sleep and redirects the mind.

When ruminative thoughts emerge, acknowledge their presence with curiosity rather than judgment. Remember that these thoughts do not define who you are; they are experiences, not identities.

When Additional Support is Needed

If you have implemented these strategies and still find that rumination dominates your internal world, it may be time to seek professional support. Therapy can help you deconstruct the negative stories that drive these patterns and build new, empowering narratives rooted in self-compassion, values, and strengths.

I am experienced in helping individuals explore and transform ruminative thinking through integrative approaches that include narrative therapy, CBT, mindfulness, and positive psychology. I believe everyone has the capacity to change their relationship with their thoughts and reclaim a life led by intention and meaning.

Please contact me to schedule an appointment at a time that works well for you. Healing begins with the willingness to begin again.

Filed Under: ruminating

May 20, 2024 by Alan Zupka

How to Tell Someone Your Boundaries

So, you’ve decided that it’s time to set some boundaries in your life. Good for you! Boundaries are essential to maintaining relationships with friends, family members, and coworkers, as they can help build trust and respect. Once you’ve decided what your boundaries are, the next step will be communicating them to those around you. Here are some tips for how to do so:

  • Be clear. Explain exactly what you expect so that there’s no room for misinterpretation. For example, if you don’t want to work evenings, say, “I’m available between 9 a.m. and 6 p.m.” rather than “I can’t work late,” since “late” can mean different things to different people.
  • Establish consequences. Explain what will happen if your boundary is crossed. For instance, if your child regularly yells, say, “If you raise your voice while we’re having a conversation, I will leave the room until you calm down.” And most importantly, follow through on those consequences.
  • Use the sandwich method. If you’re concerned about how the other person will react, try sandwiching your boundary between two positive statements. For example, if you’re feeling overwhelmed by how frequently your sister calls, you could say, “I love our chats, but I’ve been so busy with this new job that I’m not able to talk each night. Can we schedule a time each week to catch up?”

Do You Struggle to Set Boundaries?

Setting and communicating boundaries can be difficult, but it’s a lot easier with the help of an experienced therapist. Fortunately, you can get the assistance you need from the caring team at our practice. We understand the intricacies of relationships between family members, friends, coworkers, and other acquaintances, and we’ll provide you with tailored advice on how to effectively set any necessary boundaries. Contact us today to schedule a therapy session at a date and time that’s convenient for you.

Filed Under: communication, relationships

May 17, 2024 by Alan Zupka

Psychology vs. Psychiatry

Many people use the terms “psychology” and “psychiatry” interchangeably, but they actually refer to two different areas of practice. Psychologists and psychiatrists are both trained to identify and treat mental health issues, and both regularly treat patients using psychotherapy (talk therapy). However, because psychiatrists are medical doctors who completed medical school and a residency, they can also prescribe medication and perform certain medical procedures.

Which One Is Right for You?

If you’ve been struggling with your mental health, you may be wondering whether to visit a psychologist or a psychiatrist. If you believe that you could benefit from taking medication—for example, anti-anxiety medication or an antidepressant—then you should reach out to a psychiatrist. But if you’re looking to avoid medication and instead focus on talking through the issues you’ve been experiencing, then a psychologist would probably be a better fit for your needs.

It’s also important to note that if you opt to visit a psychologist and they ultimately determine that you require medication, they can refer you to a psychiatrist. Likewise, if a psychiatrist finds that you would benefit from additional therapy, they can refer you to a psychologist.

For More Information

Contact us today to learn more about the differences between psychology and psychiatry. Our team has experience treating a wide range of mental health conditions, and we’d love the opportunity to assist you with your treatment goals. When you call, we’ll tell you more about our practice and our approach to treatment, schedule your first session, and answer any questions you might have.

Filed Under: psychiatry, psychology

May 13, 2024 by Alan Zupka

Can a Narcissist Be Cured?

Narcissistic personality disorder—a mental health condition characterized by an excessive need to feel important and impress others—often causes narcissists to have an inflated sense of self-worth, lack empathy, and fantasize about possessing success, power, intelligence, and beauty. Narcissism differs from self-confidence in that it causes narcissists to view others with disdain rather than recognizing that they also have value.

Unfortunately, there’s currently no cure for narcissistic personality disorder, but certain treatments can help manage symptoms. These include:

  • Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) – This form of psychotherapy focuses on identifying and addressing unhelpful thoughts and behaviors.
  • Dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT) – DBT is a derivative of CBT that focuses on experiencing, accepting, and coping with emotions.
  • Metacognitive therapy (MCT) – This approach to psychotherapy focuses on controlling thinking processes (e.g., rumination) rather than on the content of thoughts.

While there’s currently no medication available to treat narcissistic personality disorder, certain medications can be used to treat related conditions, including anxiety and depression. When a narcissist seeks treatment, their provider will develop a customized care approach that’s specially designed to serve their individual needs. 

Learn More About Narcissism

If you think that a friend, family member, or coworker is a narcissist—or if you’re concerned that you might be a narcissist yourself—we can help. Our team is highly experienced in treating narcissism, and we’ll be happy to speak with you about this condition. Contact us today to schedule a therapy appointment at the date and time of your choosing.

Filed Under: narcissist

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