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November 6, 2022 by Alan Zupka

How Your Diet Can Affect Mood, Cognition, And Sleep

Most of us are aware that what we eat can affect our waistline. But did you know that the foods you eat can also impact your brain, affecting your mood, cognition, and sleep?

Think of Your Brain Like an Expensive Car

Cars need fuel to operate. Some cars do fine no matter what type of gas you put in the tank. But expensive cars typically only do well when you fill the tank with premium gas.

Your brain is like an expensive car. You can try feeding it what you want and think is delicious, but it probably won’t operate optimally. In fact, your brain can actually become damaged if you feed it the wrong foods. For example, many processed and refined foods harm your brain, causing inflammation and toxic overload. Diets high in refined carbohydrates promote inflammation and oxidative stress and worsen your body’s regulation of insulin. 

All of this damage affects how your brain operates. That means when you eat poorly, you risk developing a mood disorder such as depression and anxiety, a cognitive impairment (making it hard to think clearly or remember information), and sleep issues.

And then it becomes a vicious cycle because once our sleep takes a hit and our mood takes a hit, and we can’t focus well, we intuitively want to reach for comfort foods that are usually unhealthy, and the cycle starts all over.

Making Lifestyle Changes Your Brain Will Thank You For

Life is easier and feels better when our brains work for us, not against us. With that in mind, here are some lifestyle choices you can make that will keep your brain working optimally:

Skip the Soft Drinks

One of the easiest changes you can make is to stop drinking soda, even sugar-free sodas, which can still impact your insulin levels. Opt for water instead. 

Eat Plenty of Healthy Fats

Your brain is 60% fat. It needs fat to thrive. But not all fats are created equally. Stay away from trans fats. These are fats made in a laboratory and are found in processed foods. Seed oils, vegetable oils – these are bad fats!

Healthy fats are those from grass-fed or pastured animals and nuts and avocados!

Take Care of Your Gut

Your gut health directly impacts the health of the rest of your body, including your brain. To be healthy, your gut needs a lot of good bacteria – AKA probiotics. So be sure to eat foods rich in probiotics. This can include sauerkraut, kimchi, Greek yogurt, kefir, and any fermented veggies you like!

Your brain does an awful lot for you. Isn’t it time you start paying more attention to what it needs? Eat right, and you will experience a big change in your mood, how you think and how your sleep!

RESOURCES:

  • https://www.psycom.net/how-diet-impacts-mood/
  • https://chronoceuticals.com/how-your-diet-affects-sleep-and-mental-health/
  • https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/nutritional-psychiatry-your-brain-on-food-201511168626

Filed Under: Nutrition

October 30, 2022 by Alan Zupka

Recognizing the Effects of Alcohol

Alcohol addiction affects millions of adults in this country. In fact, it’s estimated that roughly 10% of Americans will experience some form of addiction in their lives.

Drinking not only can negatively impact your social life, relationships, and job security, but it can also wreak havoc on your physical health. Unfortunately, this is not something that is discussed enough. Therefore, I wanted to share some important information about alcohol and its effects on your physical health.

And to be clear, I’m not talking about too much drinking as someone drinks too much every day. I am saying even if you only go out once in a while and drink too much that night, it can negatively impact your health.

Here are just some of the ways alcohol affects your health:

Your Brain on Alcohol

Alcohol disrupts your brain’s communication pathways, making it difficult for you to think clearly. These disruptions also make it more like you experience mood, memory, and coordination changes.

Heart Damage

Whether you drink a lot over a long period of time or drink too much in a single night, you are putting yourself at risk of heart damage. Excessive alcohol consumption has been shown to cause cardiomyopathy, arrhythmias, strokes, and high blood pressure.

Cancer

According to the National Cancer Institute, there is a strong association between alcohol consumption and several types of cancers, including oral cancer, esophageal, liver, breast, and colon cancers. In fact, the National Toxicology Program of the US Department of Health and Human Services lists alcohol as a known human carcinogen. 

Immunity

Drinking excessively can weaken your immune system, making you a target for illness and disease. Even drinking too much in a single night can make it hard for your body to ward off infections for a 24-hour period.

As you can see, alcohol can do a lot of damage to your health and your life. That’s not to say that you cannot enjoy an alcoholic beverage now and then in moderation. 

If you are concerned about your loved ones’ alcohol intake, share these health facts with them.

SOURCES:

  • https://recovered.org/
  • https://www.niaaa.nih.gov/alcohols-effects-health/alcohols-effects-body
  • https://www.health.harvard.edu/addiction/alcohols-effects-on-the-body

Filed Under: alcoholism, substance abuse

October 26, 2022 by Alan Zupka

Dating Tips for Neurodivergent Individuals

Many neurodivergent clients I work with have shared with me that the idea of dating is terrifying. They feel nervous about holding their own in a conversation with someone they have just met, as most find small talk absolutely distasteful. They don’t know how to pick up romantic cues from the other person, and sexual relations pose entirely different challenges!

Dating is hard for everyone, but neurodivergent people have their specific challenges. And much of these stem from a childhood where they were bullied for being different. Neurodivergent people know the pain of rejection and often don’t want to put themselves “out there” for fear of being rejected all over again.

Here are some tips to help you feel more comfortable in your skin and in different social situations that come with dating.

Identify Your Sensory Triggers

Only you can really know yourself and understand what exhausts and overwhelms you. What level of stimulation can you handle and enjoy? What may cause a meltdown?

The more you know about your triggers, the more you can steer your dating experiences so they can be as successful as possible. For example, if noise exhausts and overwhelms you, then you may say something to a prospective date like, “I can’t really do concerts, but how about a picnic in the park during the afternoon?”

If you don’t know yourself, how can you share the important aspects of yourself with someone else?

Take the Time to Process Your Feelings

Most neurodivergent people are extremely sensitive, not only to environmental stimuli but also to emotions. Neurodivergents experience feelings and emotions in their unique way. And it can often be incredibly hard to put feelings into words. For this reason, you must give yourself the space and time to process your emotions. Just be sure to tell the person you are dating that your silence only means you are trying to communicate more clearly.

Get Dating Advice

There is no shame in having a dating coach in your corner who understands you and your unique challenges. I am a therapist specializing in helping neurodivergent people live and love to the fullest. I offer my clients a safe space to process their feelings and help them navigate those areas that can be tricky.

If you’d like to get more information on what it would be like to work with me, I invite you to give my office a call or drop me an email, whatever you’re more comfortable with.

SOURCES:

Dating for Neurodiverse Adults: How to Approach Dating on the Autism Spectrum

Dating for Neurodiverse Adults: How to Show Your Partner You Care About Them

Neurodivergent Dating

Filed Under: autism, dating, neurodivergent

October 23, 2022 by Alan Zupka

Do Same Sex Couples Have Unique Relationship Issues?

Since the 1970s, LGBTQ+ people in this country have been fighting; fighting for equal rights and dismantling the stereotype that their relationships have no intrinsic value.

The truth is that LGBTQ+ relationships are just as loving and committed as non-LGBTQ+ ones. And they can also have similar challenges to heterosexual relationships regarding finances, parenting, household chores, etc.

There are, however, certain conflicts and interests that are unique to same-sex couples.

Friendships

In heterosexual relationships, there is a clear boundary marked by sex. For instance, a woman may spend a “night out with the girls” without creating feelings of insecurity in her male partner. Similarly, a man could spend the day watching the football game with his best guy friend, and there would be no issue.

If, however, she wanted to hang out with an ex-boyfriend or he was helping a female coworker train for a marathon, there may be some tension.

This tension is commonplace for same-sex couples as most friends and exes are of the same sex.

Same-sex partners cannot expect to spend 100% of their time together. And in fact, it is healthy to spend time apart. But I always suggest to my clients that they set some definitive rules at the beginning of the relationship and have open and honest conversations so feelings don’t get hurt and both parties are heard.

Out VS Not Out

Same-sex couples have another unique issue: each partner may have a different level of comfort regarding being open about their sexuality. For instance, one partner may be completely “out of the closet” and want to show physical affection in public, while the other may not be as out or comfortable.

I help my clients communicate with one another so each party can express what they need in these situations. Every person is entitled to develop their feelings of ease in this regard in their way and own time.

Non-Inclusive Language

Many same-sex couples wish to start a family just as heterosexual couples do. But it can be stressful and frustrating when running into situations where non-inclusive language is the norm. For instance, their teacher repeatedly tells their child, “Bring this permission slip home to your mommy and daddy.” Or when a man is in the park pushing his baby in a stroller, and a well-meaning passerby says, “Aw, adorable, does he look like you or your wife?” Over time, these situations can really tear a person down.

Being in a committed couple is challenging, no matter the sex of each partner, and you are certain to run into your fair share of conflicts. How you handle them is what makes the difference between a strong, healthy relationship and one that ends in ugliness.

Please contact me if you and your partner are struggling with any issues and want to speak with someone who can help.

Filed Under: gay couples, lesbian couples, lgbtqia+, relationship issues

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